Our anger is often like a raging bonfire. It flares high and hot then diminishes to a pile of ash and embers, succeeding only in destruction. Yet anger is not without purpose and can be useful if carefully managed.
oot-in-Mouth Disorder: A common mental disease found in anyone possessing a working mouth, characterized by the imaginary sensation that something is lodged in their mouth after they say something inappropriate or erroneous to another person.
"I didn't think 'A' would cause 'B.' "I didn't think what I said would be offensive." "I didn't think it was important." Key phrase: "I didn't think." The rapid pace of our society coupled with a constant influx of information affords little time for mental processing. We need that time. In order to become wise, time and meditative thinking are essential.
What is the root cause of offending and taking offense? It all comes from failing to follow this one rule...
Communication is a lost art. In spite of the vast amount of books, classes and seminars on the subject, we are probably worse listeners now than we were 50 years ago. We are instantly connected these days through social media, email, and texting and yet much is lost in the cacophony of wires, pixels and tones. How can we be better listeners?
My best friend has been a cop for nearly seven years. Working in such a gritty profession has wrought violent changes to his perspective. He has arrested drug dealers, wrestled heroin addicts to the ground, apprehended drunk drivers, pursued high speed vehicles, rescued the dying, encountered bloody and decaying bodies, managed violent crash scenes, and stopped domestic violence. These are the things that turn saints into cynics...
Maybe you don't even realize that you feel this way, maybe it's buried somewhere deep in your subconscious. God's Word has a way of forcing us to confront things we'd rather ignore.