Stuck, alone and helpless. [The Effective Prayer 9.29.15]


Breathe deep the gathering gloom
Watch lights fade from every room.
Bedsitter people look back and lament,
Another day’s useless energy spent.

Cold hearted orb that rules the night,
Removes the colors from our sight.
Red is grey and yellow white;
but we decide which is right,
And which is an illusion?

~ Graeme Edge, Moody Blues, Days of Future Passed

Night, peaceful night.

Peaceful, at least, for some of us…

What do you feel when you find yourself in a still and silent place? Do you feel panic, anxiety, peace or joy?

I crave stillness. Life is so hectic. I yearn for those quiet moments when I don’t have to do or be anything. It is a human foible to constantly crave that which eludes us.

Here’s a little perspective:

Imagine for a moment being on end-of-life care or severely immobilized. You’re stuck in a wheelchair or confined to a hospital bed. You have no driver’s license. You don’t have the physical capability to get anywhere on your own.

You feel like a caged bird.

A world that used to brim with possibility is suddenly beyond reach. You can’t strike out on a new adventure unless someone is willing to take you along. You feel Stuck. Alone. Helpless.

Welcome to the life of the shut-in.

In the twilight of life, it is common to struggle to find purpose for those remaining days. People who are confined due to age or illness long for a kind word or a friendly visit. They feel forgotten, isolated. Some grow bitter in their loneliness. Others have physical ailments that cause embarrassment or discomfort. Sometimes, they aren’t elderly. Relatively young men and women struck with cancer or like illness may find themselves in a hospital bed, drawing closer to death far sooner than they’d expected.

Do we just cast them aside and pretend they don’t exist? Are they less deserving of our compassion than the vibrant, healthy and young? On the contrary, they are in desperate need of compassion and encouragement before they meet the Maker.

An example of compassion and purpose

Even though my mother worked full-time, she tried to find ways to visit the elderly ladies from church who were in the hospital or shut-in. During my junior year of high school, we gave a plate of cookies to an elderly couple at church that we didn’t know very well.

We all became fast friends.

A short time later, the man passed on leaving behind his wife. Their children lived elsewhere. She was all alone. Without her husband, she was unable to drive. Nearly every Friday afternoon, my mother would take Mary while she made deliveries for work so that they could visit with each other and pick up some groceries. It was an edifying experience for all of us. I observed that one could grow old and still have joy. One could be shut-in and still find purpose. Helping others could be helpful to you. Mary was a talented lady and she would knit and crochet blankets, sweaters and stuffed animals for new moms and needy folks. She made several of our baby blankets and I still have them today. Mary was a beautiful example of growing old with grace.

It all started with a plate of cookies and ended with a beautiful friendship.

Praying for the shut-ins.

This week’s prayer requires you to reach out a little. If you are an introvert like me, this may be a  difficult task. People are unpredictable and it can be a bit daunting. Remember, God does not call us to do only that which is easy or comfortable; He calls us to be compassionate regardless of circumstances.

If you have a similar personality to mine, I recommend starting out slowly. Begin by sending a card in the mail. Next, find someone who has experience ministering to the elderly and ask to accompany them when the visit people.

Here is a list of specific requests for the shut-ins:

  • Pray that they will seek the Lord until the end. I have observed the effects of debilitating disease and injuries. It either fosters a closer with God or triggers bitterness toward God. Pray that their eyes will be open to the Lord and that they won’t reject Him in their pain, loneliness and fear.
  • Ask the Lord to send them friendship. (This could be you!)
  • Pray that they will be comforted by the Lord’s presence.
  • Pray for those caring for them—both family and health professionals. Pray for those who are making decisions for this individual; pray that decisions will not be motivated by convenience, frustration, exhaustion or selfish desire, but rather what is best for the one cared for.
  • For those Christians suffering from dementia, pray that the Lord will remind them that He has not forsaken them. I have shared a story in the past about a lady I knew who suffered from Alzheimers. Even in that fog of confusion, she always spoke to me of God’s faithfulness. You can read that post here. It is a prayer that offer up for myself at times. I hope I am lucid until I die, but if I should get Alzheimer’s or dementia, I pray that I am like the examples I have seen of people who remember the steadfast love and faithfulness of the Lord even when all else is forgotten.

FREE PDF list of what to pray for shut-ins. Includes bible verses and a few lines to add notes/names. Download by clicking here.

Pray with purpose.

Pray effectively.

Reach out and encourage!

Please leave feedback in the comments section re: the PDF download. I am still trying to format this effectively to be a tool for your use and mine. Thank you in advance for your help.

16 thoughts on “Stuck, alone and helpless. [The Effective Prayer 9.29.15]

  1. From James: Pure and unblemished religion [as it is expressed in outward acts] in the sight of our God and Father is this: to visit and look after the fatherless and the widows in their distress, and to keep oneself uncontaminated by the [secular] world.

    We may not be able to make a difference to many or all, but we can certainly make a difference to one.

    We can also use our legal authority to the name of Jesus to lay hands on the sick (especially true of unbelievers). The devil tried to bring dementia upon my grandmother, I used the name of Jesus to cast it out- God has given us a sound mind (anything else is not of God and must go in the name of Jesus).

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    1. I like what you said here: “We may not be able to make a difference to many or all, but we can certainly make a difference to one.”

      Too often we think that helping others needs to be some grand gesture that impacts thousands of lives. Even leading one person to Christ is a huge victory! That’s one more soul that Satan has lost and the kingdom of God has gained.

      Reading Kings & Chronicles, it becomes clear to me that people can start off on a good tack while they are young and lose faith when they are old. It’s important that we don’t minimize the value of souls who are near the end of their life.

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  2. Your mother practices this each day every day. She works tirelessly to help those who cannot help themselves.
    She does this because she has a hope in God, because she has great faith.
    May we all have such great faith!

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    1. Amen! I’m very thankful for my mother. 🙂 She is an example of someone who serves the Lord with quiet humility.

      Thank you for your kind words & comment, Ida.

      God be with you.

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  3. Elihu, another great teaching post. By that, I mean teaching us all ways in which we can pray. I will repeat that I am simply not the ultimate prayer warrior, but these posts really help me in my process of learning how. Thanks Brother.

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    1. Thanks, Wally! I too have felt inadequate in many of my prayers. I tend to pray for myself more than anyone else and I’m trying to shift my focus outward toward those who have needs. I’m delighted that they are helping you in your walk as well. Thanks for the encouragement.

      May the Lord be with you.

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  4. Hello Elihu. Huge, huge thanks for this beautiful and compassionate post. I am a great fan of the elderly and shut in. I also love the humble heart that comes across in your writing. Your mum was one in a million!!😊 Looking forward to receiving more as I ‘follow’ you!! Blessings in Yeshua 😊


    1. Thank you, Reuben.

      I learned much of what I share from my parents’ examples. My mother has a servant’s heart. My father has been a hospice nurse for over 20 years, so I have had some exposure to the experience of the elderly and dying through him. I am thankful for people like you who know how to show kindness to the elderly. We need to connect with them. 😊

      I appreciate your encouragement. Blessings on you as well!

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