Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.“
~ Matthew 18.21-22, NKJV
Can’t you just see the apostles doing the math? (Obviously they didn’t have this conversation, but humor me…)
“Seventy times seven? Um…Sheesh, I always hated numbers.”
“Hey Matthew, you’re good with numbers, what’s 70 x 7?”
“Are you sure?”
“Matthew, I think you messed up.”
“Trust me. It’s 490.”
“How on earth are we supposed to keep track of someone sinning against us 490 times?!?! That’s intense!”
Peter’s question to Jesus possessed a flawed implication. His idea of forgiveness was one in which a person acknowledges the wrong, offers pardon, and keeps a record of the incident for future reference. It’s akin to the idiom, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Like many of his fellow Jews, Peter thought forgiveness should have a limit.
As usual, Jesus turned the conversation right-side up with a well-chosen hyperbole: “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” While some translations put the number at seventy seven, Jesus’ point remains. Quantity is irrelevant in the matter of forgiveness.
Regardless of the frequency or severity of transgressions against us, we are commanded to forgive without bounds.
Love vs. Record-keeping
I did a translation comparison of 1 Corinthians 13.4-7 (click the link or see below). Only two of the four versions I compared—the NASB and NIV—mention keeping a record or account of wrongs. (You can do side-by-side comparisons like this one at BibleGateway.com)
I like looking at all four versions, because each version provides a different angle to the problem. I highlighted them in the above picture, and listed them here:
- does not take into account a wrong suffered
- is not irritable or resentful (don’t we do that when we “keep track”?)
- is not provoked, thinks no evil
- it keeps no record of wrongs (no bookkeeping allowed here!)
Resentment is evil thinking. Keeping track of how often someone has wounded you means your forgiveness was nothing but mere lip service.
Married folks, we would do well to pray over this passage daily. Nobody has more opportunities to wound you as deeply and frequently as your own spouse (often unintentionally). Guard against maintaining a mental checkbook of wrongs suffered versus kindness done. Love is patient, bearing all things and enduring all things. True love truly forgives.
After Jesus answered Peter’s flawed question, he proceeded to tell the parable of the unforgiving servant. In this parable, a servant who owed a tremendously unrepayable sum to his master pleads for patience. The master, being a merciful man, extends him a full pardon. As the servant goes on his way, he spots a fellow servant who owes him money. In his anger, he throws him in prison until repayment is made.
The large sum has been calculated to be in the range of $10 million to $7 billion whereas the amount the fellow servant owed was estimated around $2.00 (I had a difficult time obtaining consistent comparisons, but you get the picture.). The one shown colossal forgiveness was unwilling to extend even a meager slice of mercy.
Are we guilty of doing the same?
If one took an honest hour to list the many sins they had committed against God and wrongs done others, it would be a hefty dossier. A few folks may be aware of a handful of these transgressions, but the sins of the mind are known to you and God alone. Beyond our list are countless sins we don’t recognize in our ignorance.
Our debt to God is like that seven billion dollar sum—impossible for us to calculate and hopeless to repay. Jesus paid the debt with His blood on the cross. Our service to the Lord is not an attempt to repay our debt of sin, but an ongoing demonstration of our love and gratitude for his measureless mercy.
Contrast your debt to God with the wrongs committed against you.
If we are being honest, our grievances are paltry by comparison.
Now, I recognize there are some sins with huge ramifications. Physical and/or verbal abuse, murder, adultery, rape, assault, war—these actions shatter lives, crush hearts, and damage minds. In spite of the severity of any sin, forgiveness is still required if we are to be like Christ.
Jesus forgave the ones responsible for his death while he was still bleeding in agony.
Does God demand more of us than He did of His own son?
(Important note: Forgiveness does not mean remaining in relationships where there is physical or sexual abuse. We are required to forgive, but that doesn’t translate into you or your children being a punching bag. Get out of the situation immediately—especially when children are involved—and seek protection.)
Forgive from the Heart.
The parable does not end well for the unforgiving servant:
Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.
~ Matthew 18.32-35, NKJV (emphasis mine)
Forgiveness is not optional. Jesus lists no exceptions.
To refuse to forgive is to inject deadly poison in our very heart. In choosing resentment, we inflict far more damage to our soul than any human ever could.
“But, Elihu—I can’t forget what this person has done to me. I am still suffering the consequences after all this time. I forgave, but I can’t forget. How do I forgive completely? How do I move on?”
That’s a question I hope to satisfy in the next post… Stay tuned!
For those who are curious, we will be continuing our series on Invisible Illness in the coming weeks, Lord willing. I am in the process of researching the next three subjects. I do not plan to cover every mental disorder, but I want to address a few more of the prevalent ones. Thank you for reading!