Marriage and Family

Social Media Ground Rules For Your Children


Shortly after college, I worked for the Sales Director of a large corporation in Sacramento. At one of the many sales-related dinners we hosted for our clients, he told us how he had recently purchased a car for his sixteen-year-old daughter. Apparently, this was something he had done for all four of his children.

My critical skepticism must have shown on my face because my manager started to chuckle. He explained the “terms and conditions” of this gift. Each child had to read and sign a contractual agreement upon receiving keys:

  • No radio during the first year (he always removed it)
  • Maintain 3.0 or higher GPA
  • Wash vehicle weekly
  • Perform scheduled maintenance on time.

Any failure to fulfill their end of the contract resulted in suspended driving privileges.

A contract (as long as it’s enforced) is an excellent idea because it provides a son or daughter with clearly defined expectations and consequences. Most of the time, we parents essentially hand the keys of a giant weapon to our new driver and cross our nail-bitten fingers.

Even with all the pre-license training, 16-19 year-olds have the highest risk of motor vehicle accidents. Imagine how many more accidents would happen if we failed to teach them?

We take so much care with driver’s training, yet so little care with technology training.

Our electronic devices provide children access to one of the most powerful and dangerous tools of our age—the internet. Occasionally, we are lulled into a false belief that parental controls will prevent our children from being “one of those kids”—those who post inappropriate pictures, suffer from bullying, or get lured away by predators.

Instead of blindly handing out devices, let’s lay down some ground rules…

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4 thoughts on “Social Media Ground Rules For Your Children

  1. You bring up excellent points. Children do not have experience or adequate knowledge to make many of the decisions we ask of them. Adult guidance is key for foundational understanding that children can build upon. It seems today, many parents are more interested in being “friends” of their children than PARENTS to them!


    1. Agreed! It’s important for us to remember that if we leave them to figure everything out on their own they will… and not always in the most healthy or constructive ways. They need our guidance to come to a good understanding. Thanks for your comment!

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  2. Totally agree! They need to know where they have to push stop button! Without proper guidance they can be easily misguided that can damage a lot especially their character and behavior!

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